I have decided that 4 is the best age… and the worst, because now it’s time to deal with toddler negotiations!
If you have a toddler you already know what I am talking about! We can have actual conversations and discussions with our children (YAY – no more mind numbing baby speak). However, at some point I skipped the part where my little monster went to law school because we have now entered a phase where he acts like a lawyer and tries to negotiate everything! – The problem is, he is good at it! (I should be proud of this BUT he keeps using his powers against me!)
If you add this to his cute face, he always makes me second guess myself – and then panic because I AM SUPPOSED TO BE THE PARENT! (but the kid has a point on a few things – dammit!)
This leads to my current lifestyle of negotiating and finding myself having to deal with phrases like this:
Never put anything on the table you aren’t willing to give
Never make two deals consecutively
You don’t always have to negotiate
Negotiations don’t necessarily mean no tantrums
Here’s the thing. Toddlers will test your last nerve, and they want everything and are not willing to compromise half the time. The other half you aren’t willing to compromise on things. Ultimately, negotiations won’t always go their way and they will strop off and have a tantrum anyway!
Make them think they are winning
This is a reflection of real life business negotiations! Always ask for more and aim for higher, so that when you have to negotiate down you are actually getting what YOU wanted in the first place. The toddler feels like they have haggled you down and everybody is happy – when toddler negotiations work, this is how!