• When Excuses Aren’t “Excuses”

    Excuses! These are one of my pet hates.

    when people do horrible things and use their current situations as an excuse to justify them. I try to live my life saying “no excuses” and so I firmly believe that if you behave a certain way (for whatever reason) you should hold your head up, admit it and attempt to resolve things (where possible)… I hate excuses!

    *Probably because, as a teenager I used up an abundance of them and now I can’t stand it!*

    It is not very often that I write solely for my own indulgence (although blogging, for me is a lot little self indulgent anyway) but I came across a quote that made me stop and want to discuss it. It is so simple and obvious but something I find myself continuing to forget:

    “Be Kind, For Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle” – Plato

    BUT I am also guilty of behaving in ways that are affected by things going on in my life.

    The frame of mind I am in can dictate my actions and can make me stubborn and disagreeable until later I realise I was wrong. So if I can do that, why can I not accept that from others?

    Why is it, that when someone else tries to explain it’s an excuse but I have a reason? it is not fair to hold other people to a different standard!

    I am very guilty of becoming self absorbed and I often feel like no-one could understand some of the personal challenges that I go through, so I do not share them or discuss them, but they are still there and they influence how I behave.

    In doing this, I forget that friends, loved ones and everyone else are all going through something and it could influence the way they behave towards me or other people.

    So I wanted to stop today and write this post as a recognition to try and be more kind and forgiving… To appreciate the things I cannot see that go on in someone’s mind or in their life and to show some compassion next time someone tries to explain what they have been going through,  rather than just see it as an excuse! As well as to try and be more kind and less judgmental towards others and their behavior (let’s be honest I am probably not the only one guilty of that!)Be Kind - sometimes they aren't excuses

    Sometimes Excuses aren’t excuses…

    Have you heard this quote before? are you guilty of calling people out on their “excuses”? How will you try and show a little more kindness?

    Linked to

    Cuddle Fairy
    http://viewfrominhere.com/waywow-linkup-14-new-rules-all-posts-welcome/

    If You like it, Share it, Simple...Share on FacebookPin on PinterestShare on Google+Share on TumblrTweet about this on TwitterShare on StumbleUponShare on LinkedInPrint this page

8 Responses so far.

  1. Charlotte, I am guilty. I really do try to remember, but I do a lousy job. You’ve just made that a focus of growth for me. Thank you!
    Regina L. L. Wells recently posted…Haute Hip Hop Opening PartyMy Profile

  2. This is one of my favorite quotes of all time. It’s a great reminder for us to think of where other people are coming from. That there might be something difficult going on in their lives. It’s not easy to be happy & upbeat all of the time & we should cut each other some slack for bad days. It’s lovely to have you join us for #candidcuddles this week hun! Thank you x
    Becky, Cuddle Fairy recently posted…Blogger Club UK Linky 3My Profile

  3. I have heard this quote before. I think as humans we just have a natural instinct to judge someone without knowing what’s really going on. I try hard not to do this but it still creeps up on me from time to time. I don’t like to hear excuses…especially when I know they are lies. I believe just be up front and honest. I am visiting from Candid Cuddles. Trista
    Trista, Domesticated Momster recently posted…Quote Of The Week ~ Feb 1, 2016My Profile

  4. I love this quote. It is definitely one to make you stop and think. I don’t like people who make excuses for their behaviour either, but I am more likely to understand if they explain the situation, at least then I fell like they have tried. #candidcuddles
    Debbie
    Random Musings recently posted…Thought Of The Week – Week 12My Profile

  5. This is one thing that I try to remember every minute of the day, we are going through so much, and I try not to let it influence my compassion for others. Sometimes it all becomes too much, then I apologize and hope that I haven’t done damage that can’t be repaired. I try to give grace, to figure things out, to extend olive branches, I would love the same in return. Most days a smile goes a long way to making things better, for me and for the one I’m smiling at!
    Nikki Frank-Hamilton recently posted…Social Media BlastMy Profile

  6. It is a really great quote, yes I have heard it before, but it is always a great reminder to not be so self consumed! #candidcuddles
    Mackenzie Glanville recently posted…I may not beMy Profile

  7. It is so easy to be consumed by your own problems. This is such a great quote. I do try to put my emotions to one side and remain positive especially at work but it isn’t always possible. I strongly feel that small kindnesses can make a huge difference to people and that is how I try to be. I loved this post. Thanks for linking up. (Cohosting this week).
    Catie: An imperfect mum recently posted…Candid CuddlesMy Profile

  8. Michelle says:

    I think that we all forget this from time to time, especially when we are too busy being consumed by our own problems. It’s only human but its also human to stop ourselves and recognize when we do something wrong and it a matter of maturity to own up to those mistakes. All of us adults should have reached that maturity level but many haven’t and the rest of us are left frustrated. I was taught to own up to my mistakes too and I do make every effort to do that in my life. Mistakes will be made but if we learn from them rather than try to push them under the rug, we will be better people for it. I agree with your quote and with your philosophy. #candidcuddles
    Michelle recently posted…Fitness Fridays: Week #1My Profile


CommentLuv badge

%d bloggers like this: